It is normal to feel in a state of shock and be confused about practical matters after a death. Planning and making choices about the funeral of a loved one is an important part of the grieving process.
The funeral offers you the chance to remember the life of the person who has died, to say goodbye and to share this experience with others. Many people seek the help and support of a minister, priest or faith representative. Funeral directors will put you in touch with a minister of your faith at your request.
Family, friends or clergy may suggest reputable local funeral directors to you. Most firms can be contacted via Yellow Pages but remember the costs can vary considerably.
Before you make any arrangements, check where the money will be coming from to pay for the funeral. It is worthwhile checking the deceased’s papers relating to insurance as there may be a pre-paid funeral plan already arranged. If the person making the funeral arrangements is in receipt of a qualifying benefit, help with the cost of the funeral may be available from the Benefits Agency.
The funeral director will visit you at home to discuss organising the funeral, your requirements and wishes. If you have children, let them share the grief and let them choose whether they want to attend the funeral.