After someone has died it is normal to feel in a state of shock and bewilderment, and confused about practical matters. Planning and making choices about the funeral of a loved one is an important part of the grieving process.
The funeral offers a chance to remember the life of the person who has died, to say goodbye and to share this experience with others. Many people seek the help and support of a minister, priest or faith representative and funeral directors will put you in touch with a minister of your faith at your request.
Family, friends or clergy may be may suggest a reputable local funeral directors and most firms can be contacted via yellow pages but remember the costs can vary considerably.
Before making any arrangements, check where the money will be coming from to pay for the funeral. It is worthwhile checking the deceased’s papers relating to insurance as there may be a pre-paid funeral plan already arranged. If the deceased was in receipt of benefits, check with the Benefits Agency as financial help may be available.
The funeral director will visit you at home to discuss organising the funeral, your requirements and wishes. If you have children, let them share the grief and let them choose whether they want to attend the funeral.